Become less intimidating guys


07-Aug-2016 22:20

Let’s look at this from another angle to truly confuse the issue. Downplaying yourself just to please him is another road to a never-ending relationship problem.

ou meet a guy and at some point you find yourself falling for him BUT he just doesn’t seem to get it. He’s shy, a little introverted, and worse yet, he backs off just when things are going good and you swear you can see a blind fear behind his eyes. Why would she bother with me when she can have any guy she wants? If he sincerely has a problem with it, introduce him to some poor ugly woman because apparently that’s the only woman who will make him feel good about himself.

Droves of doughy promise makers are expected to pack health clubs this week — part of the usual January pilgrimage to try to shed pounds — but some guys fresh to the sweat-soaked scene are destined to lose something else: their steely-eyed resolve.

“When you’re going to that gym, especially if you’ve never been before, you’ve got body comparisons. “Walking into a space with mirrors all the way around sort of reminds you that maybe you’re not where you want to be.” Luke Orlando, once a lanky, high school tennis player in Texas, admits he has “experienced gym intimidation, sometimes to the point where I refrained from going at all.” In fact, when Orlando earned his driver’s license at age 16, one of the first things he intended to do was drive to a nearby health club to buy a membership. I thought that you needed to be able bench (press) a certain amount before it wouldn’t be embarrassing.” The bench-press goal he devised: 150 pounds.

I am simply contending that it’s a mistake to assume that an attractive woman can find Mr. Yet ironically, the more beautiful she makes herself, the better her chances of attracting the wrong type of guy.

The more attractive the woman, the less likely she will be approached by the kind of man who is good in relationships.

I certainly could not ask you to quit your job just so a nice guy might feel more important than you. She can also have us turning our internal negativity outwards… Step out of your comfort zone and be the first to step up.

There just does not seem to be an easy solution to this problem because: It’s on him, isn’t it? Remember, introducing yourself, saying hello, starting a conversation, is NOT the same as pursuing a guy. You only have to get things started once in a while with certain guys and let them take the next step.

Some may protest the use of stereotypes, but there is often enough truth in them to lightheartedly convey valuable insights.